Can I take a bar girl out for more than one night? Can I get a discount, a reduction on the bar fine if I take a bar girl/lady out for a week, two weeks, four weeks or even longer? Are you looking for a long term bar rental/bar fine? Do you really want to have a bar girl with you long time? If you are looking for tips and advice on taking a bar girl out “long time” read on..
Firstly, there’s finding the right bar girl/lady? She may be a great dancer, young looking, tall, fat, slim, well endowed? What attracts you to a person will always be a personal thing. There’s no right or wrong. It’s just a question of what feels good at the time, and that is your first problem.
What feels good at the time! Maybe you have just met, or been together a night or two, and suddenly - you decide you want to spend a lot more time with her!! Basically you do not want someone else to snap up your find of a life time.
To do this you will have to pay the bar fine up front. Do you approach the mamasan and discuss a discount or ask the girl? Whether your lady is a bar girl, or a dancer in a gogo, I think your best bet is to talk to the mamasan. Neither will lie to you, but being Thai manipulating the truth should be expected.
Your bar fine or lady does not have to work the bar! She can take “unpaid leave”, providing she has completed the full calendar month. Walking out “going on leave” mid month may mean she forfeits her contract, which means she looses the whole month’s wage. It is very doubtful that she would do this anyway, as to do so means she looses out on her share of the lucrative bar tips, and commission from lady drinks. So unless you are in Pattaya for the long term, or you have previously made arrangements - this unfortunately may not be an option.
Back to the bar fine. You have managed to get a discount; and to you it sound’s like a good deal? You have asked to take the lady away for three weeks, and you pay up front. You arrive back at your hotel and the sex is great - even if you had to wave your arms around, and point at the things you want from her, or want her to do? Her English isn’t the best, but her smile lights the room and you forgive her.
In the morning she is watching TV, because she is much younger than you, she “rises” early. You have sex and then watch Thai: TV together. You wait for an age for her to shower, before doing the “walk of shame” and head down for breakfast. Afterwards you go to the shops as she has nothing to wear on the beach? She buys a Louis Vuitton handbag and a pair of Raibands. She thanks you for your generosity. She complains about the temperature at the beach, so sits under the umbrella in silence, apart from ordering the most expensive things on the menu! This is usually Thai food that Farangs don’t like or just can’t eat. The day passes, she wants to eat again. She wants Thai, you want steak egg and chips. Back in the room she senses your unease. Its time to take care of you. You have mind blowing sex, and all the worries and concerns you had during the day - are forgotten. She puts the TV on!
Its time to go out again. You are taken to the bar she works, where she dances seductively in front of you. This is not for your pleasure; it’s a simple way of letting her friends know she has her walking ATM with her. The discount you had arranged previously with the mamasan is eroded away in a matter of minutes. You end up paying lady drink prices. You buy a drink for her friend to be polite; she suddenly has a lot of friends. You head for another bar, and immediately your bar fine becomes less animated. She sits on a stool talking Thai to one of the girls behind the bar. You sit there watching a repeat of Arsenal playing Wolves on the flat screen TV.
Back at the “loom” it’s the usual long wait as she takes great pleasure in showering. Then it’s sex and you work really hard. The next day’s hangover is noticeably absent, but is made worse when you discover that the 99Baht in your pocket is all that’s left from the 9000Baht you went out with. The rooms untidy, because your sweetheart is not a fan of housework, towels and dirty clothes litter the bathroom floor.
Following another "walk of shame", it’s a spot of shopping where now she picks up all the necessities, hat, dress, jewellery, two pairs of shoes etc. The first time you had sex this lady really produced the goods, now unfortunately she just buys them! She thanks you for your generosity, and out of the small change offers to buy you a 20 baht Orange lolly!
After the third day, you are now finding that her lack of English is making it difficult to communicate effectively. Sometimes - you even think she is choosing not to understand! When it comes to telling a joke – forget it. Thai sense of humour is more visual than audible. The conversation that evening is virtually non existent, just more grunting and nodding really. One of the benefits of taking out a bar girl, or bar fining for longer spells, is you don’t have to listen to the usual crap the they come out with “love you long time”, “you really handsome man”, “look so young” etc. Can I suggest that even this is better than the alternative silence!
The pay off.. Your girl will need paying, typically 1000baht per night, but I am sure you would have agreed a much more realistic price for her long term company, and under no circumstance should you have paid her up front!! Long term bar fines can be a very good thing, unfortunately though, most end in disaster so giving her a payment every few days is the best option, providing your relationship last’s that long that is. The most important point here is when - not if, your relationship goes wrong, you will not be able to get a “refund”, either from the girl or the bar.
If there is a benefit of taking a bar fine long time/term, it is not for love or lust. I hear the word familiarity quoted a lot. Familiarity can make for some great sex but, it is most certainly not love you are experiencing. Having one or two regular sleeping mates is nice, and it still allows you to explore other avenues without the risk of being caught, and therefore, anyone loosing face.
Long time/long term bar fines don’t work. If someone tells you they do, then there’s a very good chance that he’s sending her money each month too, along with a hundred other guys. Pattaya is all about living the young, free, simple and single lifestyle. So why do otherwise.. up to you!
She not lie?
